When you know (To Have The Talk)
There is a point in your life when you need to have an earnest conversation with yourself about your life. It becomes evident that you need to do it as everything becomes a bit disoriented, and you need to make sense of what’s going on.
I had that conversation around 25; it was just around the time I finished university, so I needed to figure out my next step.
The need to have this conversation presented itself long before I completed my Bachelor’s. However, I avoided it because I thought I had enough time (and I was a bit of a procrastinator). Not surprising, time crept up on me, and I found myself in a negativity space at which time I forced myself to do it. It was hard in the beginning, as I didn’t want to accept certain things about myself. However, once I welcomed specific roles, it became more comfortable for me to understand my contributions to the world.
The main questions were:
- What brings joy in my life?
- Am I excited to get up in the morning?
- Do I feel motivated throughout the day?
- Do I daydream a lot?
- Am I overly excited when Friday comes?
- What interests me, careerwise?
- What order do they fall in? (As it’s always good to have a back-up plan).
- When would I allow myself to move on to plan B, C, etc.?
- What’s my 5/10 year plan? Allow wiggle room for this one as no one can tell the future.
Answering these questions truthfully will take some time, so don’t rush the process, but allow regular reflection time. Search the internet, talk to mentors, pray/meditate, do fun activities. Your mind needs to be clear for such important decisions like these.