The Fear of Wanting More…
May it be a new experience, new love, or job; you always find yourself having butterflies in your stomach mixed in with some anxiety and nervousness. These are all normal feelings for you to experience when trying something different. What’s not acceptable is when the fear becomes too much, and you get scared. Your mind becomes flooded with all the things that could go wrong, which makes you want to run for the hills. All these negative thoughts enter your head, and you get distracted by the what-ifs.
It’s so crazy that you have these intense panic moments in adulthood. What you should focus on are the potential positive outcomes. Growing up, you’ve been through new experiences frequently, but yet you powered through them. I’m sure you had those same feelings, the same fears, the same doubts, but you went forth on that journey anyway. What made you do it? Was it an impulse decision? Did your family/friends prompt you? Did you feel it was an obligation?
If you mainly did because you felt pressured in any way you need to change your mindset. You need to start believing your worth. May it be professionally or otherwise, people keep coming around because you are amazing. Don’t lose sight of this or get distracted by the things you don’t have. You need to remember that in a few months you won’t be in the same position as you are now. Just keep going until you get what you want (consistency, consistency, consistency). Go back to the memories of when you were a child having career goals; channel that energy and remove all the negative attributes from your life, especially your self-doubt.
It’s ok to be scared because we have a self-preservation mechanism. It’s ok to be cautious because it allows us to have an unbiased view of the situation. Your future self will thank you for allowing some growth in your existence. Don’t forget that you are amazing. You are unique! You are enough! You deserve all the things you want; it’s just a matter of figuring out how to get it. You’ve got this, I believe in you!